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You didn’t realize it, but apparently you needed to have a thesaurus next to you when you filled out your online dating profile.
A new study found the words that help you get your profile noticed and the ones that are killing you.
The best way for a man to describe himself is . . . “physically fit.” That leads to a 95% increase in views, although if your pictures don’t quite back up that description, it probably won’t lead to dates.
Other good words for men to use are perceptive . . . spontaneous . . . outgoing . . . and optimistic. The three worst ways a man can describe himself are quiet . . . spiritual . . . and respectful.
The best way for a woman to describe herself is . . . “ambitious.” That will get you 48% more views on your profile.
Other good words for women to use are perceptive . . . sweet . . . hard working . . . and thoughtful. The three worst ways a woman can describe herself are spiritual . . . quiet . . . and dependable.
Someone recently asked a neurologist to name the top five things we should be doing to keep our brains sharp as we get older. Here’s what he said . . .
- Keep socializing. You’re less likely to suffer memory loss as you get older if you have a social life. So pick hobbies that involve other people, not just stuff you do by yourself.
- Challenge your brain. Read, play games, and do crossword puzzles. And try something NEW every once in a while, like learning a new instrument or another language.
- Don’t stress out too much. A ton of studies have found that too much stress can have long-term effects on your memory and your decision-making skills.
- Exercise. It improves blood flow to your brain, which helps you stay focused. And it also helps with memory.
- Stop eating empty calories. Your brain works best when your diet is high in protein, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates, which you can get from whole grains.
And a new study that came out this week found that even if you’re not overweight, cutting calories can improve your mood, your quality of sleep, and your libido.
Two cops recently came up with a list of ways to get out of a ticket if you’re pulled over. And some we’d seen some before, like don’t argue, and know where your registration is. But here are a few you might not think about . . .
- Put your turn signal on as soon as possible, even if there’s nowhere to pull over. That way they know you’re at least trying to. But if they turn their lights AND their siren on, it means they think it’s a good place to stop, so pull over right away.
- Kiss up to them BEFORE they go to their car to run your info. That’s usually when they decide whether or not to give you a ticket. And once they write one, they can’t take it back. Writing a ticket and then ripping it up only happens in movies.
- Don’t be short with them, but don’t talk too much either. They might get suspicious if you give a one-word answer to every question. But they might just get annoying if you start rambling too much.
- Try to make them laugh. Which sounds a little risky, but apparently it works. We’re assuming a bad joke has the opposite effect though. So don’t force it.
- Mentioning that you know a cop DOES work sometimes. So if you can work it into the conversation, go for it. Or if you were in the military or someone in your family is, that might work too.
There’s a dating app called Hinge that’s like Tinder, but only matches you up with friends-of-friends on Facebook. And they just did a study to find out the best ways to start a conversation when you’re doing online dating.
Here are three results that are kind of interesting, even if you DON’T use dating apps.
1. Guys are 98% more likely to reply to ASSERTIVE messages. Women are 40% more likely to reply to FOOD-related things, like “What’s your favorite type of cake?”
2. Men are 25% LESS likely to respond if you wait more than six hours to message them after you’re matched up. But the response rate for women only drops by 5%.
3. People over 35 are more likely to respond to messages about pop culture . . . 29-to-34-year-olds like more personal messages . . . 24-to-28-year-olds respond more to lifestyle questions and things like, “What are your plans this weekend” . . . and 18-to-23-year-olds like weird questions that catch them off guard.
The survey also tested a bunch of pre-written icebreakers to see how well they’d do.
And asking the person to respond with “Two truths and a lie” had the best response rate.
It got 31% more replies than average.
Hinge – Apple | Android
Tinder – Apple | Android
Stress is often seen as a negative effect on the body, but it is very essential to life. It is the “fight or flight” system that is naturally part of our survival system. Stress is bad when it overwhelmingly impacts our health equilibrium. Everyone deals with stress, in one way or another. It is associated with higher levels of cortisol, a hormone produced by the adrenal glands. Accumulated unmanaged stress can lead to major physical and psychological illness, including depression, overeating, excessive sleep, and irritability. While it is impossible to avoid stress completely, it is possible to manage your stress. Here are a few ways:
1. Get a massage.
Massage has been shown to be effective in reducing mental and physical stress. In one study in the Journal of General Internal Medicine, massage helped lessen stress and pain in patients who have chronic pain. Another study in the Australian Journal of Advanced Nursing suggested that 15 minute massages helped reduce the psychological stress of their test subjects. Massage lowers the level of cortisol and increases the levels of serotonin and dopamine.
2. Go for a walk.
Going for a walk can clear your mind and keep your body healthy. Walking helps increase your endorphins which can give you a euphoric feeling and it reduces the levels of cortisol. It will give you a boost of energy while reducing your fatigue. On top of that, simply being outside also helps reduce stress and helps increase memory and attention span.
3. Stress relief with a pet.
Studies have shown that pet therapy helps reduce anxiety and stress for many people. One study showed that it helped students during exam times. Another study showed that patients experienced a 37% deduction in anxiety if they spend time with animals before their medical operations. Having an animal around distracts them from their worries. Stress relief pets lowers blood pressure and cortisol. While dogs and cats are usually the choice of pet for stress relief, other animals can also help. Watching fishes in an aquarium has also been shown to reduce your blood pressure.
4. Drink tea.
Green tea lowers your blood pressure and is full of antioxidants that is beneficial for your health. In one study, black tea helped lower cortisol and reduced stress after six weeks of drinking tea more so than subjects who were drinking placebo drinks.
5. Get proper sleep.
A study in children showed that disruptive sleep shows a higher level of cortisol. By having a restful and high quality sleep and undisruptive naps, one’s cortisol levels will decrease. Another study tested on healthy young men has shown that taking proper naps throughout the day will lower one’s cortisol levels.
6. Work out.
Hit the gym or go for a run. This allows your body and mind to focus on something that is healthy for your well-being. While it distracts you from the cause of your stress, it also increases your endorphins and decreases your levels of cortisol. Endorphins is the natural “feel good” hormone that is released when you exercise. The more aerobic your workout is, the more endorphins your body release.
By taking deep, slow breaths, your blood pressure and heart rate also slows down, which counteracts the effects of stress. This also allows you to relax and clear your mind and is largely used in meditation. It has been shown to reduce anxiety and help folks with depression.
8. Use guided visualizations.
This is a technique that many people use to relax, control their stress, and help them achieve their goals. One study shows that subjects reported less perceived and dyadic stress after using this stress managing tool. Guided visualization allows people to imagine and consciously think about certain issues and helps people get in touch with their intuition. This usually leads to feeling refreshed and has helped many attain a higher self-esteem.
Certain plant oils have been found to relieve nervous tension or anxiety. The scents of certain plants, such as lavender, can ease our stress and relax us. These scents can create a mood for us and some may even bring us memories or thoughts associated with the smell. Aromatherapy is often used with massages, meditations, and hot baths. It is a wonderful calming experience for those who have tried it.
10. Turn your phone off.
Your smartphone allows you to access the rest of the world. This will allow stress to come to you if you see certain things happening in your close circle online or in the world. According to one study, work-related emails through smartphone causes higher stress in people. By turning off your phone, you shut the external stress out and it allows you to focus on yourself and your immediate surroundings. Escaping technology can be a very relaxing experience that everyone should try, whether its during the weekend or during vacation.
Meditation has been used for thousands of years to help find your inner self and has sometimes been used as part of religious purposes. It is an inexpensive technique used to release your stress and allows you to clear your mind. Pairing it up with breathing exercises can further lower your heart rate and blood pressure. Meditation can help you find tranquility and clarity in your thoughts.
12. Enjoy a hot bath.
A hot bath can help relieve the tension on your muscles, lessen the pain on your body, and it provides a comfortable environment that surrounds your body. It also promotes blood circulation and calms the nervous system. Water can be infused with minerals and other products such as Dead Sea salt or oil for an aroma and soothing feeling.
Yoga is an excellent weight and stress management tool. It helps your balance, flexibility, and strengthens your core. Studies have shown that yoga is promising in reducing anxiety and stress in people who practice yoga. While yoga should not completely replace pharmacological medication to help with anxiety and stress, it is highly recommended to supplement pharmacological medicine with yoga. Yoga originated in India and has been around for more than 5,000 years. It also helps with bronchitis, chronic pain, and some symptoms of menopause.
14. Listen to music.
Certain music gets people in certain moods or thoughts. A study has shown that patients in post surgery who listened to music had lower stress levels than those who did not listen to music. Another study also shows that people from different cultural backgrounds prefered different types of music for pain and stress relief. While everyone’s preference is different, find music that is soothing for you.
Going to a comedy show or watching a funny movie will help manage your stress. One study showed that there are lower levels of the salivary endocrinological stress marker chromogranin A (CgA) in those who watched a humorous movie. Along with less stress, these subjects also reported a feeling of being uplifted and fulfilled.
16. Try a craft.
Finding a hobby and keep your hands busy will distract your mind from stressors. Studies have shown that doing a craft enhances relaxation, especially for children and seniors. It is used quite often as a therapeutic healing method. Craft is helpful because it allows you to express yourself in an artistic way.
17. Write down your thoughts.
Keeping a journal or diary of your thoughts and activities allows you to express yourself and your feelings. It is thought to help you understand your feeling, organize your thoughts, and reflect on your choices. Your journal is also a place for you to let your emotions out that you wouldn’t let out otherwise. One of the best part of journaling is that you can write down your negative emotions so that you move on with the positive emotions.
18. Avoid caffeine.
Try to avoid coffee, energy drinks, and other drinks that are heavy in caffeine. Caffeine increases catecholamines and cortisol, which are both stress hormones, while increasing dopamine for a quick “feel good” response that will wear off quickly and make you feel low. Drink green tea instead.
Takeaway Point: Stress is needed for survival, but it is important to control your stress. If left unmanaged, it can build up and cause psychological and physical harm. Stress works differently for everyone; therefore, how one manages their stress may not necessarily work as well for another. It is good to explore different paths to handle your stress.