If you’re dumping someone, is it better to break it to them gently, or just come right out and say it? According to a new study, the gentle approach is VERY overrated . . .
Researchers at BYU gave 145 people a bunch of ‘bad news’ scenarios. And in almost every situation, they said they’d prefer it if the person was straightforward, honest, and fairly blunt about it. Softening it just makes it harder on them.
That doesn’t mean you should just blurt it out with no warning though. Ideally, you want to give them a few seconds to realize they’re about to get bad news. THEN be blunt.
A lame line like “we need to talk” is good enough. You just need to clue them into the fact that bad news is coming. Then follow it up with something straightforward like, “This isn’t working. I think we should break up.”
The study found that beating around the bush any more than that can make it easier on YOU, but not the person you’re breaking up with. So if you drag it out, you’re actually being SELFISH.
The same thing also applies for other types of bad news. Like if you have to fire someone, it’s better to just be straightforward about it.
And we don’t want ANY sort of buffer if we’re getting bad news about our health. We just want the doctor to give us the facts, and be upfront about it.
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If you could travel back in time, and somehow NOT destroy the present and cause the rise of the machines, what would you tell yourself as a teenager?
A new survey asked people what ONE piece of advice they wish they could go back and give to themselves as a teenager. And it had to be vague life advice, not like, “Invent Google.” Here are the top 10 . . .
- Get a better education, 16%.
- Be bolder and stronger reaching for your goals, 11%.
- Plan better for the future, 9%.
- Relationship advice, 7%.
- Slow down, and take it easy, 6%.
- Live life to the fullest, 5%.
- Be true to yourself, 5%.
- Don’t do dumb things, 4%.
- Don’t drink, smoke, take drugs, or party, 4%.
- Listen to your parents and respect your elders, 3%.
And 1% of people say their life has been perfect, no advice necessary.
This seems awfully medieval for medical advice, so please take it as information only . . . and DON’T sue us.
A hospital in Boston is running a test right now on a new technique to stop people from snoring: Taping their MOUTHS shut.
They aren’t using duct tape or anything . . . they’re using a special device that sticks to your mouth and keeps it shut while you sleep. So it forces you to breathe through your nose.
But that’s not all. The researchers think it could also help fight sleep apnea, because it forces the person to breathe through their nose, which can help stop their throats from closing up.
Unfortunately there’s no word on when this anti-snoring mouth tape might go on sale.
We found some GREAT new advice on how to get in shape quickly. We’re just not sure if you should take it. Ready? Just . . . quit your job.
A new study out of Sydney University in Australia found a good way to get healthy is to stop WORKING.
They found that people who retired got an extra 93 minutes of exercise every week . . . spent 67 fewer minutes every day sitting . . . and slept for 77 more minutes every night.
People were also more likely to quit smoking once they stopped working, and got to spend more time on their hobbies and other stuff they actually like.
The researchers say that when you stop working it, quote, “creates a great window of opportunity to make positive lifestyle changes. It’s a chance to get rid of bad routines and engineer new, healthier behaviors.”
Of course, none of this really works unless you’ve got enough money to avoid stressing out about not having a job. So, you know . . . hopefully you kept listening until I said THAT, and didn’t quit your job 45 seconds ago.
The Powerball drawing is tonight at 10:59 P.M. Eastern. The prize is now up to $1.5 BILLION . . . and it’ll probably jump even higher over the course of the day. That means the LUMP sum should also cross the $1 billion mark, which is crazy.
So what do you do if you win? I mean . . . uh . . . WHEN you win. Here are six pieces of advice from MARK CUBAN. After all, he became a billionaire the old fashioned way. You know . . . by tricking the suckers at Yahoo into giving him a fortune.
- Hire a tax attorney first.
- Don’t take the lump sum, so you don’t blow it all.
- If you weren’t happy yesterday, winning won’t make you happy tomorrow.
- But if you WERE happy yesterday, winning will make you VERY happy tomorrow. You’ll enjoy a life where you don’t have to worry about bills.
- Tell all of your friends and family NO when they ask for money. No exceptions. If you help someone, it should be someone you’re close enough to that you knew about their financial issues BEFORE you won. And no one needs $1 million for anything.
- Winning the lottery doesn’t make you a smart investor, so don’t make investments. Just put the money in the bank and live comfortably forever.
(Dallas Morning News)